When it comes to wedding traditions, few things spark as much discussion as the first look. Some couples want the aisle moment to be the very first time they see each other, while others are open to a quiet, private reveal before the ceremony.

So what’s the right call?

Weddings go by fast. One minute you’re sipping champagne in a robe, the next it’s midnight and your uncle’s doing the worm in an empty room. So how do you stretch the day, stay present, and actually enjoy what you’ve spent months (and dollars) planning?

Here are six smart, experience-driven ways to get the absolute most out of your wedding day.